Recently I read a quote which said,
Maturity comes when you stop making excuses and start making changes.
It got me to think about a certain situation in my life and how I have been making excuses for it.
It is a straight-forward scenario with two possible solutions:
- The first solution: I swallow my feelings, hide what I really want to say, and everyone is happy.
- The second solution: I reveal my feelings, I feel better but hurt a few people in the process.
I am very tempted to take the first solution. I only have to wait for time to heal me and then I am good to go. I can save a lot of people from getting hurt even if I have to lie to them. In the end, it is just easy to deal with it rather than go through the mess of having to prove my point.
But when I think of it, I should not be selfish. Of course, doing what I want without thinking about others’ feelings is selfish but unless I am happy, I cannot expect others to be happy in my presence.
In the first case, I have a lot of excuses and most of them are very convincing. I am surprised how all those excuses make me reconsider my decision. But I know for sure that even though time heals me, this decision is going to nag me throughout my life.
Growing up is not just about increase in age. It is a continual process, which gives us invaluable experience, and it is about making a decision, no matter how tough it is.